Sacred Sexuality
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We are sensual & sexual beings. Our sexual energy is part of our divine human instinctual nature. We can’t suppress the fact that we are naturally liberated in our sexuality. All living beings are created through this divine act. Is it important for us to not carry shame around this topic for it is natural, beautiful, & sacred. We should talk freely about sex & our sexuality. It is what connects deeply to divine & our human essence.
Sacred sexuality is all about seeing every intimate “sexual” experience as sacred & is way more than just about the act of having sex. It is fully embracing the powerful exchange that sex is way past just the physical body & connection. Sacred Sexuality is about being aware that our sexual life force energy can be channeled for healing, creativity, manifestation, transmutation, & illuminating one’s potential. We must focus on dissolving shame & guilt around our sexuality through embracing our bodies' natural ways of feeling pleasure.
Ancient civilizations & ancient cultures have always seen sex as a sacred act as it connects us to creator & the divine. When we experience our sexuality just with ourselves or shared with another person, we are tapping into the highest vibration & frequency of pure light energy. With this energy we can do many things & with practice we can channel this energy into healing on a collective scale & individually.
When we connect to our own unique sexuality we connect back to our sovereignty & purity.
Organized religion, the patriarchy, & white supremacy has always tried to disconnect us from our sexuality by attempting to condition us to think that our sexuality is dirty, embarrassing, & wrong. We are told that we must be quiet & submissive about how we sexuality identify, our sexual orientation, & our sexual experiences. This suppression leads us to being confused, misguided, & shameful of who we are sexually. We have been told that sex out of marriage or queer sex is sinful & wrong. We are told that women should not vocalize boundaries when it comes to sexual energy as that makes us too bitchy & angry thus undesirable. We are taught that sex is purely to procreate & is only a physical act. ALL of these things are not true.
Sexual energy is our life force energy. It has the ability to give life to our organs & restore our health & well being. It has the ability to deeply connect us to our body & if we choose another person, in a profound & encompassing way. It has the ability to create new life. It has the ability to transform & transmute the traumas & pains we’ve experienced into acceptance & forgiveness. It has the ability to seduce our desires & manifestations into our reality.
When we connect back to our sexuality we connect back to the hidden & suppressed parts of us that are waiting to be seen, loved, & appreciated. When we connect back to our sexuality we connect back to the deeply embedded wisdom within the crevices of our bodies & reawaken the potent power we hold within.
Here are some ways that you can reclaim & connect back to your Sacred Sexual & Sensual Essence:
#1 Set time & space for you to be able to connect back to your own Sexual Energy.
It’s important that you first connect to your own sexual energy before sharing it with someone else. Set some time aside for you to connect back to yourself. Make sure the space that you are in is sacred. Clean your space, spark a candle, light some clean natural incense or essential oils, listen to calming sensual music, & set up your space so you can be as comfortable as possible. Awaken your senses through touch, taste, sound, & smell. Give yourself a sensual self massage as you speak love notes to your body. Flirt with yourself & seduce yourself. Give the romance you wish to experience with another back to yourself. This is a beautiful way to connect back to your sexuality & also your body. You can lightly touch all crevices of your vessel getting to know what feels good & what does not. Any areas that might be holding trauma you now have an opportunity to send love, forgiveness, & compassion to. You can use yoni mapping techniques, tantric breast massage techniques, or any type of touch that resonates with you. Let yourself fully embrace this experience as you get to know all parts of you. It is essential for you to first understand how your body feels bliss & pleasure before expecting someone else to know this. Exploring your own body & what it wants & needs is a beautiful way to reclaim your pleasure & sexuality. This goes deeper than just feeling pleasure; it is a reclamation of your body & primal instinctual arousal on all levels. Pleasure is the gateway to heaven on earth.
#2 Asserting Your sacred “Yes” & sacred “No”
When we start to connect back to the sacredness of our sexual energy & our vessel, we will naturally need to learn how to properly assert our sacred “yes” & sacred “no”. Setting boundaries goes hand in hand with us reclaiming our bodies & sexual energy. We should be comfortable with telling others “no” when they want access to our sexual energy as it is a privilege for anyone to have access to our energy, in a sexual way or not. When we start to assert our boundaries we teach others how to love & treat us. This is a powerful act of self-love & self-care. Teaching others your boundaries shows others that you are confident & proud of who you are & you see the energy you hold as sacred & royal. (as it isssss)
#3 Realize that how you identity sexually is scared.
You are pure & sacred no matter how you identify. Whether you are a cis woman or part of the Lgbtq+a community you are beautiful & your sexual energy is valid & divine. Realizing this & being proud & liberated in who you are as a sexual & sensual being is the key to reclaiming your sexual energy as your birthright. We can’t live harmoniously with this energy until we honour & accept how it translates. Explore yourself & how you identify without judgment. Never put yourself in a box & remember that your sexuality can be changeable. No one defines you but you.
#4 Ground yourself with deep breathing & meditation.
When connecting deeply to yourself alone or with a partner it’s important to take long deep breaths into the body. This assists us in staying connected to the present moment & any sensations that we may be feeling in or around the body. This also calms our nervous system & relaxes us, which is KEY to experiencing FULL opulent blissss within our bodies. When we take time to ground & connect to our lower chakras we directly connect to our sexuality, our instinctual nature, our sensuality, & the deep connection we have to our reproductive organs. When we ground ourselves through meditation we give ourselves a chance to connect back to the safety that we feel inside of our body once we drop fully in. Through this process we can visualize ourselves being encompassed by our own divine healing light. The light of the universe. Residing in our field as our life force energy filling us with compassion, empathy, & unconditional love. This also gives us a chance to set a clear vision for where we would like to channel this life force energy, whether it be something we would like to transmute or add light too. We truly have the power to do both.
#5 Move your sacred vessel.
Movement can look very sexy but also works in subtle ways. When we move & express ourselves through sensual movement we free ourselves from the confines of stagnancy. We hold memory, trauma, fear, resilience, power, empathy, love, & all emotions & feelings within our body. If these feelings do not get fully expressed & integrated, they will find a home within us. Movement gives us the time & space to process unwanted emotions & channel high vibrational emotions. Movement is liberation in motion. It’s not about how we look it’s about how we feel. Dancing sensuality in the mirror or on the dance floor is a divine way to reclaim your sexuality as it directly connects us to our bodies & primal instinctual nature.
Closing the eyes & turning inward while moving the body how it wants to, is extremely healing. The practice of free movement can drastically change us on a cellular level raising the vibration of the body & cleaning out the energy field. When we are a clear vessel we can channel our life force energy with ease & grace.
You are a masterpiece. You are a divine reflection of the universe. You deserve to feel pleasure. You deserve to enjoy your body & enjoy this human experience. As you do the work of reconnecting to your body & your pleasure you will naturally lean deeper into liberation & freedom.
With reverence,
Jia. xx
