Breaking Free from Shame as a Woman

Let’s talk about something that affects so many women: shame & conditioning. For generations, we’ve been taught to shrink, suppress & disconnect, from our bodies, our emotions & even our desires. This conditioning runs so deep that it often doesn’t feel like something we were taught, it feels like truth.

But what if it’s not? What if the shame you carry isn’t even yours?

The roots of shame in women’s lives

We’re conditioned from a young age to prioritize how others perceive us over how we feel within ourselves. Cultural conditioning tells us to tone it down, stay in control & avoid being “too much.” Generational patterns teach us to survive by conforming, often at the cost of suppressing our authenticity. Shame is passed down generationally, when we are doing work to let go of shame, we are practicing ancestral healing. 

Shame & what comes with it, creates a disconnect from our bodies, a result of feelings around being too emotional, too passionate, too alive or to sensual & erotic. Since young girls, we’ve have been told to hide in order to protect ourselves; to not express, to be “good girls” & to be compliant. This disempowers us as woman as we continue to carry this subconscious baggage. 

This shame creates blocks, not just in our energy but in how we show up in the world. It keeps us from fully embodying our the full spectrum of our feminine essence.

How shame shows up in our bodies & lives

Shame doesn’t just live in the mind, it takes root in the body. It’s the tension in your hips, the tightness in your chest, the numbness in places that once felt alive. It shows up as:

-Avoiding mirrors or feeling uncomfortable in your skin.

-A lack of connection to pleasure, not just in the bedroom, but in life.

-Suppressing your voice, your desires, or your creativity.

-Not seeing your worth, people please or imposter syndrome.

This disconnection feels heavy, but, it’s not permanent.

Breaking free from shame isn’t about pushing or forcing; it’s about reclaiming!

It’s about creating a safe, loving relationship with your body so you can let go of what’s no longer serving you & welcome what’s been waiting for you.

Here’s how you can start:

Reconnect to your body

Your body is wise & holds the key to your transformation. Through somatic practices like movement, breath & safe touch, we can begin to shift the stagnant energy of shame into something new: freedom, joy & vitality. 

We store emotions, memories, sensations our bodies & we constantly teach our bodies how to react to sensations of pleasure & joy. If we’ve been taught that these things aren’t worthy or safe we have to work on re-wiring those neural pathways, we do this through somatic practices, through role play, through getting curious on what is really going on inside our bodies. 

Learn the language of your feminine energy

Shame often blocks us from hearing the messages our feminine energy wants to share. When you drop into intentional movement you can start to feel these messages: where you’re holding back, where you want to expand & what your body truly craves.

Asking yourself what does your feminine energy truly crave? How do I desire to feel into my body & pleasure? What feels good? What feels not so good? What feels icky? What feels juicy? 

Embrace somatic alchemy

This is where the magic happens. Using movement, breath & embodiment, we transmute emotions like shame, fear & stagnation into pleasure, confidence, & self- connection.

It’s not about fixing yourself or even achieving a certain result, it’s about creating a loving dialogue with your body & discovering you healing powers & the ability that you have to work with your erotic energy, to restore your vitality, access your soul self, build a dialogue with your shadow & your light!

This is exactly the kind of alchemy we’ll explore in my course Erotic Alchemy!

The practices we’ll explore will awaken our vitality & body wisdom.

Let’s dive in!!!